Monday, March 15, 2010
School is Cool
The program starts at 9, but I had already planned to get her there late this morning to skip the commotion of all the other kids getting dropped off since it was her first day. Before we got out of the car, I told her again what was going to happen when we went inside. She did not like the part about me leaving, but I assured her that it was going to be okay and she would have fun. We went in and I walked her to class. We took a spin around the room to look at the toys and books. When she let go of me, her teacher Miss Beth was taking care of the business of distraction, so I gave her a kiss and reminded her that I would see her after lunch. She didn't cry, but I could tell that she was trying hard not to and I knew exactly how she felt because I was doing my best not to cry, too. I went to the office to handle the paperwork and watched on the video monitor from there. She stuck close to the teacher and watched the other kids. Before I left, I got to look into her classroom for a few minutes. She was still standing next to the chair where her teacher sat, but she looked a little more interested in all the activity. I got in the car at 10:00 and headed home.
Scott and I were pretty amazed this weekend about Annabel's increasing conversational skills and sense of humor. We got her a new doll at Target on Saturday that sort of looks like her. I think she wants to name the doll Annabel, but she wouldn't say it, so we kept asking. "What do you want to name your doll?" "Me." "You want to name your doll "Me"?" "No, me." "You want to name your doll "Nomi"?" "No, me." And on and on and on. This cracks me up to no end, so I just perpetuate it. Luckily, she thinks it's funny, too, if not slightly annoying. After Target, we went to a Mexican restaurant for lunch. Annabel was eating chips and salsa and I could tell that she got something hot in her mouth. I asked her if the salsa was hot and she told me no, it was spicy!?! I have no idea where she learned that, but Scott and I were impressed. We had to make another trip to Target last night and Scott pointed out a shirt in the toddler department and Annabel told him it was a boy's shirt. Of course, it was, but I have no idea how she knows this!?! He tested her a few minutes later with another boy's shirt and same thing. Hilarious!
My exchange surgery is tentatively scheduled for April 15th. I was pleasantly surprised to learn that it is outpatient surgery. The coordinator at my plastic surgeon's office hasn't gotten confirmation of the date yet, but I will know for sure on Friday when I go back for my usual follow-up appointment. I am not sure what the recovery from this surgery will be like, but I know it is not as major as the mastectomy. If all goes as planned, he will just use the incisions from my mastectomy and deflate the expanders to remove them. He plans to clean the area with antibiotics before he puts the implants in and then he will sew/glue me up and send me on my way! I haven't read the literature that I brought home last week, but he has suggested silicone gel implants. I guess there are other options and he said that if I'm going to obsess over the things popping, that I should consider another option. With saline, if it pops, the saline is absorbed by your body and that is not so with the gel. I don't plan on obsessing over it, so I am going to go with what he suggests. If I hate them or they don't work (look nice), they will just have to be replaced.
On Sunday afternoon, Shannon and I went to Yoga for Women's Health together. I was nervous about it because I still have pain and I don't think I have full range of motion in my right arm/shoulder. I use it normally, but it is just not the same because of the lymph node removal. I am really happy that I went! I was able to pretty much fully participate and while some of the poses were challenging, I didn't ever feel like I was going too far or causing damage. I got a good stretch and found it to be very relaxing and refreshing. I have been to yoga a few times before, but this time, I felt more "into" it. The instructor was really helpful in explaining everything explicitly without dumbing it down too much or going over my non-yoga-minded head. I also think I finally "got" the breathing thing. I really enjoyed the class and plan to go whenever possible, hopefully once a week. There is another class there that I want to try called Restorative Yoga and it is for people with chronic conditions or who are recovering from illness or injury. I was going to try that today, but I am a little sore from yesterday, so I'll wait until next week. Other than a little soreness in my hips and legs, I have some burning in my chest muscles. My chest muscles feel like they might be old, brittle rubber bands. Again, hoping that is a radiation thing and it will get better. I am also looking forward to starting the oncology rehab program, but I am not sure whether my oncologist will want me to start before or after my surgery.
Tomorrow is my first 3 month follow-up appointment with my oncologist. I am nervous about it because I'm afraid that going there will cause more anxiety than relief or confidence. I am not sure that I will have any tests or screenings to make sure that it is gone or hasn't come back. I guess I will be nervous either way and going to the oncologist is just a(nother) reminder of cancer. I have a lot of questions for her, but I haven't made my list yet, so I need to work on that this evening. Three months is a long time between appointments, so I need to make sure that I cover all of my questions and concerns. I have mostly felt that I get proper attention during my doctor's visits, but I am worried that might be different now that this is a "follow-up" visit. I don't like it when doctors are dismissive or quick to run through the necessary information exchange. Again, I have not ever felt like that with my oncologist, but I haven't really seen her much since my surgery.
So, that's another update in a short amount of time! I am glad that there is good and exciting news to report. I do like to update my blog, but it is really hard to do if I can't devote some quiet time and concentration; it's difficult with the stops and starts of a normal day and sometimes I'll start a post, but by the time I get back to it, it's old news and gets scrapped. Such is life!